RELATIONSHIP ADVICE.

There are some important principles we must demonstrate and cultivate before we bump into a relationship, this precepts are so essential if we must enjoy longer term relationship. It is very simple to admire good and lasting relationship but hard to cultivate one.

Principles for Long Term Relationship. 

1. HOLINESS.

Your relationship is as good as you are, you manifest all through a relationship the true person you are. There are no rooms for counterfeit behaviors, THE LONGER THE RELATIONSHIP BECOMES, THE VISIBLE YOUR TRUE NATURE GET. You should never ignite a relationship until you are HOLY, do not go into a relationship because you are alone, it is good to be HOLY but bad to be alone. You should never seek for pleasures in a relationship, hunt for principles instead. Let us discuss what it means to be HOLY. HOLINESS is the integration of countless behaviors, actions, characters and images into a perfect, sincere, estimable and worthy unified likeness. Holiness doesn't mean you should be a religious creature, as a matter of fact, IF YOU ARE NOT HOLY, YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL NEVER LAST. You need to be incorporated in character, behaviors, wordings, actions and lifestyle. Stop living a dichotomize life,  stop living a life full of lies, "you therefore must be Holy, as your heavenly FATHER is HOLY" (see Mathew 5:48), this were HIS VERY WORDS, THERE'S never a dichotomy behaviors in HIM, HE is ONE, both in character and nature. Don't you ever think you can never be Holy as HE IS, if a relationship must work there must never be a ulterior motives in a relationship, your relationship is as good as your holiness. The more Holy you're, the lesser the complications you experience in a relationship, avoid false behaviors, stop behaving like an angel in the presence of that person and a demon in the absence of that somebody, you cannot hide your true animal nature, THE ROLES YOU ACT WILL BECOME A SNEER TO YOU, FORCING AND INVOKING YOUR TRUE CARNAL NATURE OUT OF FRUSTRATION. In essence, you will not be able to keep up with the parade because you ain't the person you claim to be. This is the reason why divorce is common in marriages today, lack of oneness, in characters, in behaviors and wordings tear apart two souls. Just obey and practice this principle GOD establish if really you want to enjoy your relationship, "Be ye therefore holy, even as your Father which is in heaven is holy". Be Holy in character, avoid dichotomy, be unified in wordings, let your diction rhyme with your actions, characters, likeness and image. You must halt all ulterior motives in you if you must experience perfect and affluence Kingdom standard relationship. "But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation;Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy"(see 1peter 15-16).

2. UNDERSTANDING.

Understanding is the principal element in a relationship. Even if you're holy and you are not manifesting the understanding virtue, your relationship will never work. Nobody is completely perfect, we are all learners in the school of the kingdom, learning how to be as HE IS. In a relationship, you will face problems caused by the two participants in many ways, you don't have to go crazy for little things, even among the important issue only FEW things matters. BEFORE YOU BLAME YOUR PARTNER FOR HIS WRONG ACTION PUT YOURSELF IN THAT CIRCUMSTANCES THAT MADE HIM ACT LIKE THAT AND ANALYSE SINCERELY, IF IT WERE YOU, WILL YOU HANDLE THE SITUATION ANY DIFFERENT FROM THE WAY THEY DID. Even if you're right, you're never allow to create a problem from there, talk to them in a soft, respected and loving way, crack a little joke if possible but don't tease them, even if they scream at you, unleash hurtful and painful words, don't say a word to them or argue with them, just remain silent to them and wait till they finish before you leave. After you have leave their presence, go straight to GOD in prayers, tell HIM your Lamentations and how you want HIM TO HELP YOU, ALWAYS TACKLE YOUR PROBLEMS SPIRITUALLY. MOST TIMES, THE MOST SILLY THINGS TO DO IS THE VERY ESSENTIAL THING TO DO. Learn how to understand your partner behaviors, if you don't like it, tell GOD (see Jere 33:3), tell him the behaviors you want your partner to manifest (see John 14:13), learn how to understand his Job and why he comes late and don't call you or send a tweet because he's busy, if it getting intolerable, inform GOD, you have the power (see Matt 7:7), learn how to understand the way he speaks, Learn also how to understand his attitude. Understand  your partner and your relationship will be everlasting. THE SPIRITUAL IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE PHYSICAL IN A RELATIONSHIP. BEFORE YOU CRITICIZE YOUR MATE UNDERSTAND THEIR CIRCUMSTANCES.

ABNORMALITIES.

The reasons why your relationship and marriage always lead to divorce is because you are normal; don't get me wrong here, what I meant to say is that you have eyes to see the fault of your partner, you have ears to listen to the rumors of your partner deeds from strangers and disdain he vomits,  you have mouth to utter haughty words to your partner. You are not disabled that why you keep getting hurt, Can a blind man get offended due to the negative expression from his partner? Or can a deaf lady get offended due to the damaging words from her spouse or lies and hearsay from a friend? For a relationship to work, you need to act as if you are abnormal. Must you always see the faults of your spouse? Must you always listen to bruit from friends? Must you always verbalize negative words to your mate on unnecessary things? Why must you be mad at him or her on little things that can be resolve if only you seat down and talk maturely? How many times have you made yourself lose those important business meetings or job because of  foolishness, Did you divorce yourself because of that little mistake? How many times have you suffer pain because of your negligence, did you kill or deny yourself of personal hygienes and food? Then tell me why you always get angry on little things. Don't you love your neighbor (spouse) as yourself? If you say you love that somebody with all your heart, soul, liver, kidney and pancreas why can't you seat down and talk maturely? If you say she's the only air that keep you sustain, why listening to rumors from enemies who come as a friend? Never believe a rumour either from your closet friends or relation about your mate until you have first confirmed it from your partner, only few issues are necessary in life. If you don't possess and manifest the virtue of abnormality, your relationship will never last. You will keep on seeing fault, listening to lies from your close friends and relatives (see Ecclesiastes 7:20, James 3:2, Songs of Solomon 2:16).

LOVE AND RESPECT CONVERT.

This is another effective precept of the KINGDOM OF GOD concerning a relationship. For you to enjoy your relationship, you must convert the love and respect principle and apply it to the specify types of man. If this principles are converted and applied accordingly, you will  never suffer in a relationship. The male man needs respect from a relationship, The female man needs love in a relationship. When love is converted to respect, the male man begins to love his partner, males expect respect in a  relationship, love your male man, respect him even in his weakness and shortcomings. He needs your respect, respect him in everything you do, don't be disrespectful towards him when handling some problem, always give him that respect. He longs for it, surrender to him and you will enjoy your relationship. The female man needs love, love her, as you love you, love her even in her weakness and false. The end of the matter is that if you respect him Unconditional, he will love you unconditional and if you love her Unconditional, she will respect you unconditional.

Note this please: until you are matured before you can start up a relationship, you might be an adult and still not qualified to begin a relationship. Relationship are for the matured ones.

FULFILLED.

This is not a necessity for quack relationships but essential for wonderful relationships. As a matter of fact, you need to be fulfilled in other to provide the basic requirements for your partner, you need to be like Adam, who was fulfilled. He had a garden (home), salary (fruits and produce from the animals) and a Job (carer of the garden , including the naming of the animals). I'm sure if Adam is in this present days, he would date his spouse (Eve) to wonderful and unique places, spending his money on her and making it full of good memories. Be fulfilled before you go into a relationship, love is sweet but when money is introduce to it, it becomes sweeter. If you choose not to be fulfilled, lack may be among the reasons for disrespect and lack of love. Try and be fulfil even if it's little when igniting a relationship. 

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